Dr. Greg Manning’s – Permanency in the News – Week of 2/17/20
Permanency Tip of the Week: Do We Stop Seeking Permanency to Protect the Child from Future Loss? Part 1 of 2
Sometimes we work with that “one Youth” who has had so much loss and has so many problems, that there may be considerable internal and/or external pressure to consider protecting the Youth from future loss and/or trauma by stopping Permanency efforts. No person, no matter their age and life experience, stops possessing the capability and innate desire to learn how to be in safe, healthy, and loving relationships. I am in support of the long-term planning potentially being put on pause while the child and family grief the loss; however, labeling the child as not being appropriate for Permanency is never a good option. That would be like saying that someone who lost examples a spouse, should never be allowed to seek a new relationship, or someone who lost a job, should never be allowed to seek employment again. These may sound outlandish, but the same rationale continues to sometimes be used to justify stopping Permanency efforts for some of our Youth.
Next week, we will discuss some steps that we can consider when facing this dilemma.
Permanency Success Story of the Week: Baby Girl with Down Syndrome Is Adopted by a Doting Dad After Being Rejected by 20 Families
My Modern Met – Take one look at Luca Trapanese and you’ll see a doting dad who loves his daughter, Alba. And once you learn the extraordinary circumstances that led them to one another, it makes a strong case for the idea of fate.
Trapanese, a gay man living in Naples, Italy, had wanted to have a family for years. But when he and his long-term partner broke up, Trapanese’s dream seemed like it would never come true. Then Alba came into his life. In 2017, Trapanese got a call from an adoption agency to tell him that he had been matched with a newborn girl who has Down Syndrome. She had been rejected by 20 other families, but not Trapanese—he fell in love with Alba. “When I first held her in my arms, I was overcome with joy,” he recalled. “I felt she was my daughter straight away…”
Permanency Related Articles:
CLASP – Too many young people cycle in and out of prison, jails, and detention centers and face probation and parole conditions that keep them locked out of the opportunity. These interactions with the criminal justice system demand the need for both equitable practices and programs that support second chances and large-scale investments in decarceration. They also require a critical analysis and undoing of historical policies that manifest in an unequal and unjust criminal justice system.
From Surviving to Thriving: Supporting Transformation, Reentry, and Connections to Employment for Young Adults, from FHI 360 and CLASP, offers practical programmatic solutions that support second chances for young people and raise policy and systems considerations to address equity, collateral consequences, and opportunity.
Rhonda Sciortino – There is one thing that we all need. It doesn’t matter how old or young we are, although the young need it more because it’ll determine the degree of happiness and authentic success in the lives ahead of them.
So what is it? It’s how to love and how to be loved.
If we don’t learn how to love and how to be loved at home, we may not learn it at all. It’s not taught in grammar school, middle school, or high school. It’s not taught in community colleges or universities. Sadly, there are many homes in which it’s not taught. Not learning how to love and how to be loved isn’t a “neutral” position. If we’re not learning about genuine love, then we’re learning some distorted version of it or worse…
The Marshall Project – When most Americans think of foster care, they think of children waiting years in homes or institutions to return to their families or to be placed for adoption. But every year, an average of nearly 17,000 children are removed from their families’ custody and placed in foster care only to be reunited within 10 days, according to a Marshall Project analysis of federal Department of Health and Human Services records dating back a decade…
Although short stays in foster care may seem too fleeting to matter, they often inflict lasting damage, much like that experienced by children separated from their parents at the U.S.-Mexico border. Experts and studies on child development say that the moment when a child is taken from her parents is the source of lifelong trauma, regardless of how long the separation lasts. In interviews, nearly a dozen children and young adults who were temporarily removed from their parents as minors echoed that sentiment. It “felt like being kidnapped, even though it was just for a few days,” one said. “I didn’t know how long it would last”…
Children’s Bureau (CB) – “It’s time to ask ourselves some tough questions about what child welfare is set up to do.” Jerry Milner, Associate Commissioner of the Children’s Bureau, talks about how to shift the focus of the child welfare system.
Forbes – Camille Guaty, Hollywood actress and CEO of Foster a Dream, is leveraging her platform to raise awareness on helping children in the foster care system. Known for her roles on VH1’s dramedy Daytime Divas and Netflix film’s Nappily Ever After and A Futile and Stupid Gesture, Guaty is building her reputation throughout the industry as a social impact entrepreneur. Her organization directly partners with the Los Angeles County Department of Children and Family to address the gaps in service and find ways to improve the lives of thousands of foster youth in LA county.
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